Hey lovelies!!! Happy Monday! Yet another week of slayage has begun and I wanted to talk to that person who does not feel confident and is worried about what other people think or say about them. Basically this is a message to some part of me and maybe even you.
This is all from my perspective. People I do not know rarely make me feel insecure but for people I know, their actions and words are recorded in my brain. Basically people I know could control the way I acted and spoke. I am not saying, “Oh poor me. I was under the influence of the people around me.” No! We are not victims here. I chose that. I chose not to offend another person. I chose what other people thought of me as true and sound over what I actually thought of myself. As you can imagine the result was so many misunderstandings, so many friends lost, so many people forgot me and others felt that they did have a say over me because I allowed it to be that way.
Many months later I am told I have changed. Hehe not really. It’s just that my opinion matters more now than ever before. It is so much weight to put on ourselves as we try to please the people around us. It is too much of a burden. I always thought that it was the best way to avoid confrontation but as much as I avoided confrontation, I passed up on what I actually wanted.
These are the kind of thoughts that sometimes went through my mind, “I want this but they don’t. I am probably the one who is wrong.” “They didn’t even include me. I’m sure they have reasons. Maybe it’s because I’m not worthy to be part of them yet.” “They said this about me. I should probably back away so as to cause them no more worry.”
I sound like a baby. Hehe well today I woke up and the words my sister has been shoving down my throat for years finally sank in. The words that I was told in a really significant dream I had some time back rang so true. Be confident in yourself. Be brave.
Now I am here at this moment working on these things and to be honest I feel like I have done a mighty fine job. So now to you. Wherever you may be at this point in time, you are so awesome and I promise you, nobody can change that and that is a fact! Whatever other people do or say has got nothing to do with you. It is just based off their own experiences and perspectives. They are people and their mind can be changed but you cannot bounce back from one personality to the next just to please the crowd you have around you.
You are special and unique and I cannot wait to see how much you light up the world by being you! This is not meant to be some cute quote. No. That is not my intention. I want you to know that there are people who will try to shut you down and those you can cut off. If you cannot at this time then always create a positive head space and an objective perspective in whatever they do or say. And to be honest sometimes they probably do not know that they are stifling your light because they could be fighting with their own demons. Speak out in love and light and if your action is not taken seriously, it is no business of yours. You already spoke and that is all that was required Boo!!
Your heart is so special and beautiful and only the worthy and the one’s your spirits are connected get to touch it. The rest, may they bask in your kindness in your forgiveness and in your self-confidence. It took me a long time to figure this out and finally I have. Tell me about your stories. What made you come out of your shell and soar or if you have not yet, what is holding back? I’d love to hear from you.
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