I was thinking of Fenty Beauty’s KillaWatt highlighter when I wrote that title.
Hello beautiful amazing people! I have a simple activity for you to do. Raise your hand in you’ve never compared yourself or your performance to another person. If your hand is up, I need to meet and learn from you. How do you do it? Comment below and let me know how you can. If your hand is down, then welcome and here are a few things I have learned. BTW guys, I do enjoy hearing from you and I’m not just saying that. I always welcome good vibe conversations because I love them so much.
Yes we compare ourselves almost all the time. The presence of social media just elevates it to extreme levels. It’s such a common practice yet it is so unhealthy for our energy. That’s the funny thing though, sometimes it is even subconscious. Like I just saw a group of friends in a photo together and they are all dressed so cute and in heels. And I just thought, they are the kind of girls to do that, clearly I will never be at their level because I don’t wear heels often. I should start wearing heels. Look how beautiful they look. And that is where I closed my Instagram app to have a reality check. So I’m about to serve us all up with some truth!!!!!!
How many of you exist at this moment in time that you are aware of? I’ll answer that, NONE! We need to take it easy on ourselves. We are not living the same lives. This is why our bodies, minds, souls and hearts are all different. Even our situations are different because of the exact same reason. They are unique to only us. Just because someone likes the thing that you like does not make this person a reference point for our entire lives regardless of how much more experience they have over us.
Now, I’m not about to talk about how we compare people’s highlights to our lows and not talk about triggers. We compare ourselves often but there are those days that we just feel like Beyonce and we are running the world without a care in the world! Those days are cool. But those days we look down on ourselves, we definitely have triggers to either start looking for validation in comparing or putting ourselves down. One of my triggers is when a person has an opinion on something that I’m doing from my heart. Well not an opinion, more like a criticism. It makes me start thinking that I’m living life wrong. Then I go on a social media trail and try to find people like me and obviously there’s no one like that. And from seeing people in heels it’s a downhill spiral.
What I have learned recently is that, they are just opinions. They cannot just build me up and cut me down just like that. I needed to believe in who I am and who God intended me to be. I needed to believe that I can and I will. So I have learned to let the person speak because that is all that they can do. I know my path and what is in my heart and no stranger or friend will entirely change that. Mistakes will come, success will come. At the end of the day, that is what living is about.
What are your triggers to comparison? Tell me about them in the comments below! As always, I wish you nothing but positive vibes love and light!! Thanks for reading and have a good one!!
P.S : It took me a very long time to actually post this. Self doubt was creeping in the corner of my mind. But here it is and my strength just got that much better. Maybe next time we can dive into self doubt!! Oh and don’t forget to subscribe!!